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Ukugxila komlutha kuphoqelela kakhulu kunanoma yisiphi esinye isici sempilo yomlutha. Lokhu kuyiqiniso ngokulutha kabi kocansi njenganoma yimuphi omunye umlutha. Ukubuyisela emuva kuguqula lolu shintsho. Kancane kancane, umlutha uphinde ufunde ukuthi 'ungafuna' kanjani ngokujwayelekile.

Ukuze uthole izinyathelo ezingokoqobo zokuthola futhi ukuvimbela bheka ama-3-step models e-Reward Foundation e-Quitting Porn:

Imisebenzi ekhuthaza ukukhiqizwa kwe-oxytocin ebuchosheni (ukubambisana, ubungane, umsebenzi wokuzithandela, ubudlelwane bezilwane, ukuzivocavoca umzimba, isikhathi semvelo, ukudla okuvamile okunempilo, ukulala okuvamile, ukwenza ubuciko obufana nokudansa, ukucula, ukusebenza, comedy, imisebenzi eveza imizwelo njengemidwebo, ukudweba, ukubhala nokunye) lonke usizo lukunciphisa izifiso eziwuphawu lwe-dopamine ephansi. I-oxytocin nayo isiza ukunciphisa i-cortisol ohlelweni lwe-neurochemical elihambisana nokucindezeleka nokucindezeleka.

Kungase kubonakale sengathi kuphela 'izidakamizwa' zethu noma ukuziphatha okuzikhethela okunganciphisa ubuhlungu nokukhungatheka. Ukugxila okuphelele kokunakwa kwakho nokuthukuthela uma kususwa, kuzokwenzeka kuze kube yilapho sesizimisele ukukhipha inqubo yokususa 'ingilazi esilonda' futhi sivumele ubuchopho bethu buphinde bubuyisele emibuthanweni yemvelo. Abanye bakubiza ngokuthi 'ukuvuselela' ubuchopho.

Ukuze uthandane noma 'isibopho sombili', sidinga ukulinganisela okunempilo kokubili i-dopamine ne-oxytocin. Yingakho umlutha wanoma yiluphi uhlobo, olubhekiswe ekuphishekeleni umuthi othile wokuzikhethela komuntu, yilokho okuvimba kakhulu ubudlelwane obuthandanayo. Ukulutha noma labo abanenkinga yokusebenza bahlukunyezwa ngokomzwelo, abakwazi ukunikeza uthando, ukuzwelana noma ukuqaphela izidingo zabanye. Sidinga ukuzisiza futhi thina ngokwethu, siphinde sibone inani lokuphila ngokugcwele ngokugcwele ngendlela enempilo, yokudala.

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